I am on my way to being a mom soon...completed my 7th month and onto the 8th.
The journey so far has been extraordinary...before you reach any conclusions about me talking about the beauty of the pregnancy and how I cherished the experience, let me stop you right there. Infact, if you are reading this thinking that this blog is any kind of encouragement in any way to those who want to be moms, don't read on.
Let me put in a disclaimer before I start...I want to be a mother.... motherhood is a unique experience and it happens to every one differently and every one reacts to it differently so what happens to me might not happen to you. If after all the warnings, you are still reading this, then well, what can I say.... Read on!!!
Now I didn't become pregnant by accident, my husband and I wanted a baby and while we were told it would take couple of months and we planned an entire Italy vacation to "plan" the baby, we got lucky much before the trip and as you might have imagined, the trip didn't happen. Anyway, you don't grieve over a cancelled trip when you have just received the most life altering supercalifragilisticexpialidocious news of your life.
So my husband and I hugged and kissed and announced the news to all our near and dear ones. Little did I know then that while the baby will happen to both of us, generating another life from within yours is the toughest thing ever and what followed were innumerable rounds to the loo - so you go to puke and then you come out to realize you wanna pee, and while you are on your way out, how about puking some more. As a result, you now have acidity which is an obvious result of bile rising up your system and may have constipation cuz you vomitted all the fluids out. And don't forget about the hundred new things that will cause the nausea and you would want to kill the next person who gives you an advice on how to kill the nausea cuz none of the tricks work.
People might tell you...eat whatever you want...because the truth is well there is hardly anything you will be able to tolerate and eat! Infact, my first trimester seemed more like me turning into a hound... heightened sense of smell, hair growth, pimples on the skin, drooling, puking what one eats and irritated all the time.
Ofcourse, many women have it easier but I wasn't one of them.
The biggest problem in the 9 months are the many advises people would dole out at you..So have apple - prevents acidity, but don't have it as it causes constipation. Have papaya - good for baby, but don't have it as it causes miscarriage.
You won't know what hit you till one day out of frustration you would just give it all up and like a sane person only listen to your doctor. Trust me, if anyone knows what to do, they do.
There is a big difference between how the east and the west look at bringing the baby to the world...while the west would talk about gearing up to welcome the baby which means a baby shower would have gifts for the baby, the east would focus its attention on the mother and not talk about gifts for the baby till the baby is out. They would celebrate the mother which is actually pretty good cuz we all know that once the little thing is out, no ones going to care a damn about us.
Moving on, right from the time I hit my 2nd trimester I was waiting for the very popular first kick. And my baby - smart kid that it(I still don't know if its a boy or a girl)is decided to give a nice one while I was sitting in a meeting. LOL! You can imagine how I felt...I didn't know whether to laugh or cry - I was overjoyed yes but showing the same to a bunch of senior managers didn't seem like the most intelligent thing to do!!! But then no happiness can last that long, soon those cute kicks became practiced punches and shots and I still have a big hunch that I am going to give birth to PO - the kungfu Panda... And the places it aims, Lets just say I am glad that women don't have balls.
Wait, I am not done yet..nights are the biggest problem times, you don't know which way to turn, how to turn, how to turn back, how to get up and lie down, and how to do it all in less than 15 min. Everytime you have to pee, and trust me, you want to pee at least 4 times during the night and everytime you get up from the pot, you know in your heart, you aren't done yet. The whole seemingly easy exercise takes not less than 10 min so sound sleep already evades you. On top of it, if you have woken up the baby, you've had it! You are so doomed that you just pray and pray that the baby goes to sleep and then so can you, but like me if you are working, it won't leave you much time and soon its time to get ready and run to work.
If you are still reading this then read one last thing: Pregnancy is not just what people make it out to be. It is the toughest thing you'd ever do. You have all the right to crib and cry, all the right to curse.
But(here's the silver lining)trust me through all the problems, issues, late nights, constipated nights, acidity, nausea, feet swelling, back aches - not once would you ever think that this was a mistake because it isn't! its just hell and it precedes the biggest joy in your life! The very thought of holding that baby in my arms has kept me going and ofcourse, if you are as lucky as I am and have been blessed with the most supportive husband in the world then you'd make it as well!
The journey so far has been extraordinary...before you reach any conclusions about me talking about the beauty of the pregnancy and how I cherished the experience, let me stop you right there. Infact, if you are reading this thinking that this blog is any kind of encouragement in any way to those who want to be moms, don't read on.
Let me put in a disclaimer before I start...I want to be a mother.... motherhood is a unique experience and it happens to every one differently and every one reacts to it differently so what happens to me might not happen to you. If after all the warnings, you are still reading this, then well, what can I say.... Read on!!!
Now I didn't become pregnant by accident, my husband and I wanted a baby and while we were told it would take couple of months and we planned an entire Italy vacation to "plan" the baby, we got lucky much before the trip and as you might have imagined, the trip didn't happen. Anyway, you don't grieve over a cancelled trip when you have just received the most life altering supercalifragilisticexpialidocious news of your life.
So my husband and I hugged and kissed and announced the news to all our near and dear ones. Little did I know then that while the baby will happen to both of us, generating another life from within yours is the toughest thing ever and what followed were innumerable rounds to the loo - so you go to puke and then you come out to realize you wanna pee, and while you are on your way out, how about puking some more. As a result, you now have acidity which is an obvious result of bile rising up your system and may have constipation cuz you vomitted all the fluids out. And don't forget about the hundred new things that will cause the nausea and you would want to kill the next person who gives you an advice on how to kill the nausea cuz none of the tricks work.
People might tell you...eat whatever you want...because the truth is well there is hardly anything you will be able to tolerate and eat! Infact, my first trimester seemed more like me turning into a hound... heightened sense of smell, hair growth, pimples on the skin, drooling, puking what one eats and irritated all the time.
Ofcourse, many women have it easier but I wasn't one of them.
The biggest problem in the 9 months are the many advises people would dole out at you..So have apple - prevents acidity, but don't have it as it causes constipation. Have papaya - good for baby, but don't have it as it causes miscarriage.
You won't know what hit you till one day out of frustration you would just give it all up and like a sane person only listen to your doctor. Trust me, if anyone knows what to do, they do.
There is a big difference between how the east and the west look at bringing the baby to the world...while the west would talk about gearing up to welcome the baby which means a baby shower would have gifts for the baby, the east would focus its attention on the mother and not talk about gifts for the baby till the baby is out. They would celebrate the mother which is actually pretty good cuz we all know that once the little thing is out, no ones going to care a damn about us.
Moving on, right from the time I hit my 2nd trimester I was waiting for the very popular first kick. And my baby - smart kid that it(I still don't know if its a boy or a girl)is decided to give a nice one while I was sitting in a meeting. LOL! You can imagine how I felt...I didn't know whether to laugh or cry - I was overjoyed yes but showing the same to a bunch of senior managers didn't seem like the most intelligent thing to do!!! But then no happiness can last that long, soon those cute kicks became practiced punches and shots and I still have a big hunch that I am going to give birth to PO - the kungfu Panda... And the places it aims, Lets just say I am glad that women don't have balls.
Wait, I am not done yet..nights are the biggest problem times, you don't know which way to turn, how to turn, how to turn back, how to get up and lie down, and how to do it all in less than 15 min. Everytime you have to pee, and trust me, you want to pee at least 4 times during the night and everytime you get up from the pot, you know in your heart, you aren't done yet. The whole seemingly easy exercise takes not less than 10 min so sound sleep already evades you. On top of it, if you have woken up the baby, you've had it! You are so doomed that you just pray and pray that the baby goes to sleep and then so can you, but like me if you are working, it won't leave you much time and soon its time to get ready and run to work.
If you are still reading this then read one last thing: Pregnancy is not just what people make it out to be. It is the toughest thing you'd ever do. You have all the right to crib and cry, all the right to curse.
But(here's the silver lining)trust me through all the problems, issues, late nights, constipated nights, acidity, nausea, feet swelling, back aches - not once would you ever think that this was a mistake because it isn't! its just hell and it precedes the biggest joy in your life! The very thought of holding that baby in my arms has kept me going and ofcourse, if you are as lucky as I am and have been blessed with the most supportive husband in the world then you'd make it as well!
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